It must have been noticeable over the years that one cannot be the same person for so many long, even if he wants to inhabit the same ideals and thoughts that he grew up by.
Humans are in constant motion and change, and so are their personalities. However, it can be argued that one does not know of his changing status instantly. Nor will he be able to see himself as a different person from within. He would like to grab people's attention to accentuate his own self-esteem and self-image.
Better yet, he might be questioning change in a negative way, thus hoping for some constructive words to help his low self-confidence.
But what if those people whom he seeks for aid, are not what they seem? What if they are the cynical, unworthy type of humans?
For example, when someone who once was fit and thin. After years he started to gain weight for some reason and became fat and chubby. Would people perceive him as the same person he was several years ago? I think not. They would appear calm and supportive. Restrained and collected. Yet deep down they are eye-balling him. How did he gain all that weight? How did he become so ugly? I used to like this guy a lot. He was the best looking boy in college, now he is just an outcast.
Or a girl who was raped by a guy in an alley. Or a guy whose hair is receding or balding. Or a football player turned drug fiend.
The degradation of such behavior is definitely worth delving into. It is fascinating how human attitudes can shape themselves in reaction to external transformation, for better or worse. Let us say for example that I was badly treated in my childhood for whatever reasons. One day I attain a powerful position. The same people who mistreated me are in the front lines to beg for mercy, and of course for personal services.
It is amazing how people can change through change if you know what I mean. People are reactionary by nature in my opinion. They wait. They do not take initiative unless it is calculated and well-organized. They measure risks and consequences. If I can use you for my own want then I will. If you are not of personal benefit then what good are you? Friends are rare in this world. Everybody is looking after himself, even in families.
The unimaginative minds of people only see the material things in the human being, not his spirit. I used to have this kind of perception at times. If I dress right, I will be dealt with respect and admiration. If I just do not wear the right shoes, I will be blatantly attacked. All for what?
When will the time of mind over matter come again and precede over the impermanent?
I know as I am writing this that the same people who will read this post will think " Yes it is very harsh what the world has come to", are the same people I am talking about. Even I had those thoughts and I do not live in denial.
Regretfully speaking, nothing will progress in that aspect. It is a God given nature in us. Greed, Denial, Pity, Gossip.
Hopefully speaking, people who would read this post would realize that even though we are flawed, even though we made mistakes, we still strive for betterment and perseverance. That we own up to our mistakes.
That you who are reading this now say: "Yes I fall into this category of people"
